Goodbye, Westchester.

21 Sep

I’m out of here.

And I’ve struggled with how to share this news with my readers. I guess also because truthfully, I’ve been struggling with the news myself.

Westchester Life is moving… to Raleigh.

As some of you know, I’ve grappled with the “should we stay or should we go” conundrum for years. New York has a way of sinking its gritty teeth into you, and making you its bitch. But we got a get out of jail free card: a job offer for my hubby in Raleigh, North Carolina.

When the offer came, it was that moment in the game of chicken where you are forced to actually make a move because the other party is charging at you, full force. Sure, we had talked about leaving New York. I’ve shared with you my love/hate feelings before. But never was it a real, tangible option… at least not one with a real, tangible job offer attached to it. This time was different.

So we flew down, we did some recon, we ate some food, we talked to some people. We drove through neighborhoods, we checked out some pre-schools. And the verdict? A unanimous “It’s just easier in Raleigh.”

So I’m leaving, on a jet plane… I don’t know when I’ll be back again.

And I’m ok with it. I’m viewing this entire move as “an adventure.” The adventure of our lives. Moving somewhere else, experiencing something outside of this bubble we live in in New York is both scary and exciting. We won’t know anyone there. We won’t know our way around. We won’t have our go-to “spots.” We’ll have to start over, and make new friends, and find our favorite local places. But that’s kind of fun, no? The discovery of it all? The newness?

I write this as I come down off a high from a very inspiring coffee date this AM with Sheri Silver, bloggess and adventurer and free spirit and awesome mom. She asked me if I was going to continue WestchesterLife. I told her I didn’t know, that I hoped to… but I didn’t know how to transition this thing that was so location-centric to.. .well, a new location. She told me that my blog was more than that. She reminded me that I write about my experiences as a mom, as a self-employed writer, and as myself, and that people (apparently) like to share those experiences with me — the location is secondary. So if you’re glad to hear that I’ll be continuing this blog from Raleigh, you have Sheri to thank for showing me the way.

So, when does this madness happen? Next week. That’s right. I’ve let denial shape this long enough. It’s going down in Chinatown in ONE WEEK. One week! I’ll keep writing from here, before I transition this sucker over to RaleighLife. Eek, ya’ll!

So, what to make of packing it up and moving down south? Well let’s see… here are the things I’m actually looking forward to:

  • Milder weather. Longer falls and springs and a shorter, milder winter. Bring on the boots and sundresses, donate all 45 of my winter coats. Sweet.
  • Lower cost of living. It’s going to be an eye-opening exercise realizing how much money we’ve been pissing away living here in New York. It may require therapy to get over , actually, given how much less it costs to live in other parts of the country. From gas prices to childcare to home costs, it’s just cheaper outside of this crazy Big Apple bubble.
  • Living somewhere that celebrates FAMILY. Raleigh is famous for being a very family-friendly place to live. That means an abundance of parks, trails, activities, festivals, fun weekend jaunts, outdoor movies, markets and more.
  •  Less “have-tos.” Living here in the 914, in my 1904 fixer upper, has come with its challenges and obligations. We are constantly working on our house, my husband  can easily spend an entire weekend in the garage, and we’re always running around like chickens with our heads cut off. It’s always just been chalked up to, well… that’s life. But there’s something semi-refreshing about going somewhere no one really knows us. No plans! And renting a brand new, pristine house? No laboring over bathrooms and B.S.! AHH, the freedom!
  • Taking it down a notch. Just a hair. A sliver, really. Because I am truly a worker bee, and I wouldn’t have it any other way, but I’m hoping some of the slow Southern nature will rub off on me a little. I want to relish in reading a book. Or linger a bit longer over a cup of coffee. And maybe do both without my iPhone dangerously close by.

Well there you have it. You’ll be hearing more about my adventures, trials and tribulations in the coming weeks, as we begin our sherpa trek down south.

Stay tuned!


6 Responses to “Goodbye, Westchester.”

  1. stacyknows (@stacyknows) September 21, 2012 at 6:42 am #

    First Maria, now you.I can’t believe you are moving too. I wish you the best on your new adventure. I will miss seeing you around town and hearing your take on everything

  2. fashiongirlfl September 21, 2012 at 9:58 am #

    wow, i’m really sad to hear you are leaving! with just your blog & tweets, you’ve inspired me to celebrate westchester and to help improve on all the stuff we are not crazy about.. and i’ve actually realized there is so much westchester has to offer- and i love it!! it’s incredible really – the amount of stuff! i totally believe westchester does celebrates family (wish i could show you my calendar of family fun we are doing in just the next couple of months) but i totally understand moving on as a family, trying out a new place, exploring….and if i had the chance, i would probably do the same…depending on the location of course! best of luck and enjoy the serenity.

  3. Tracy (@nystoopmama) September 21, 2012 at 1:28 pm #

    Here via, and I have to say: GOOD MOVE! I’m a NYer who recently moved from Brooklyn to outside Boston, but I lived in Raleigh for much of my 20s and I LOOOOOOVED it. LOVED loved. Despite the serious prep factor, I would move back in a heartbeat. We lived downtown in Five Points near all the restaurants and shopping and all of it. Fantastic. Simple. Sipping Maker’s and ginger on a porch kind of simple. Have fun!

  4. brannonphoto September 21, 2012 at 3:24 pm #

    Wow Sarah, that’s crazy, and awesome. Crazyawesome. And your blog celebrates Westchester life, but so much more… I’m so glad you’re keeping it going in Raleigh. Can’t wait to hear about all your hijinks down there. All the best to you guys!

  5. Rose Colonna September 21, 2012 at 6:10 pm #

    Good luck sweetie – we’ll miss you but we’ll still have your blog to hear what’s going on!

  6. Jen September 21, 2012 at 7:08 pm #

    Wow! Can’t believe it! My favorite westchester blog is leaving… westchester! Sincerely wishing you and your family all the best. My parents left NY about 7 years ago, they live in Charlotte, NC. I love to visit, relax, regain sanity etc. . It is a much smoother pace than busy NY, you will immediately feel that. Look forward to your future posts. Safe travels!

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