Sooo out of my element…

12 Oct

Every time I hear a Southern accent I cringe slightly. And every time I hear a northern one my ears perk up as I try to locate the source. That’s been my week, in a nutshell.

I know it will get easier. I know it will get better. Transition is hard on everyone, and certainly aggravated with a two year old in tow, who is also feeling a bit displaced and confused. We spent every morning this week with him shrieking, “No like school!! No want to go!! No, mommmmmmmy!!” It was heartbreaking. This is a kid who’s always loved going to daycare. He loved his teachers, he loved his friends. He would race me inside the school every morning, and then practically push me out the door because he was a “big boy” who didn’t need his mama. Talk about disruption to our lives… this isn’t easy on ANY of us.

I spent a lot of this week thinking about the things I took for granted living in New York. Things like:

  • General sophistication that comes with a New York state of mind. Not that people here aren’t “sophisticated” in their own right. It’s just… different. Any New Yorker will know exactly what I mean. Are we elitist? Yup. No question. Are we apologetic for it? Nope.
  • Access to things that other people just don’t have. Like being able to sit in on a taping of “Watch What Happens Live” with Andy Cohen. Or sitting next to Richard Gere in a local restaurant. Or being in the audience for a VH1 Storytellers concert. Or getting to see the inner workings of Dan Barber’s kitchen at Blue Hill at Stone Barns. I know that sounds very “celebutante” of me, but it’s true! Those experiences are SO New York.
  • The narrow, uneven back roads. The Saw Mill Parkway. The Merritt. Seriously, the roads down here are in perfect condition, they are super wide, and it’s a breeze driving anywhere. You could probably do it with your eyes closed. But isn’t there something sort of charming about winding up the Saw Mill? I never thought about it until I wasn’t doing it anymore. And yep, I miss those twists and turns and dangerously narrow lanes.
  • Relatively easy access into creative communities. I clearly need to find my way, and figure out where the creatives hang out and work and play, but for now I’m just a little bit missing my smarty pants peeps who inspire me, make me laugh and teach me new stuff.

Hmmph. Today the North Carolina State Fair opened. This is apparently the biggest deal in the world to North Carolinians. We are thinking about hitting it up this weekend, so be on the lookout for a post about fried soda, pig races and pie contests. In the meantime, go out and enjoy New York… grit, grime, bad attitudes and all. And take me with you in spirit…


One Response to “Sooo out of my element…”

  1. GinnySkal October 17, 2012 at 10:35 pm #

    Welcome to Raleigh! I can’t imagine what an adjustment this must be for you coming from NY. But the Triangle does have some cool spots. In particular, you might really dig downtown Durham if you’re looking for the creative community. Get up on a Saturday morning and go to the Durham Farmers’ Market and you’ll see some hip folks. Then after the Farmers Market take your son to the Scrap Exchange and pick out some fun random doo-dads to make something cool with later.Then go down to Ninth Street and get some gelato and coffee at Francesca’s, there’s an awesome locally-owned toy shop next door too. Pop into the Regulator book shop a few doors down (they have a good kid section I think). If you love parks, take a blanket to Duke Gardens and let your son run around. Very peaceful, very beautiful. Eventually go see a show at the Durham Performing Arts Center.

    The Indy is your guide to most things fun and cool in the Triangle. Pick one up every Wednesday and read it cover to cover, even the ads. In no time you’ll find some interesting places to go, events to attend and ways to meet cool like-minded people. Look for the “annual manual” which is a glossy magazine the Indy produces once a year, it will be on magazine racks under the Indy (not in the newpaper boxes though). They’re tricky to find this time of year, the cover is ugly. It has flags from around the world on it. Don’t let that deter you. It lists all the great restaurants in the Triangle and other cool things to do.

    Eventually you’ll want to explore downtown Carrboro to feel like there’s some culture around you. Raleigh is pretty vanilla compared to Durham and Carrboro, but it’s not that bad. It’s just a matter of finding your niche.

    Hopefully a year from now you’ll have a whole new perspective of the area, and maybe even like the State Fair.

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